Compared to many of Paul’s other letters, Philemon is just a “quick note” to Philemon; only 1 chapter of 25 verses. There are, however, quite a few things to learn here, not just for Philemon, but for us as well.
Who was Philemon? Scholars say that he was a wealthy resident of Colosse. In Colossians 4:9 Paul describes Onesimus as “our faithful and beloved brother, who is one of you”. If Onesimus was Philemon’s slave and was from Colosse, then we can conclude that Philemon was also from Colosse. We assume he had some measure of wealth, as he (1) owned slaves, and (2) had a home sufficiently large to host a church.
Note that in Paul’s time, at least in the Roman empire, it was not at all unusual for citizens to own slaves. In most cities of the time, the slaves outnumbered the free by at least two to one! Slaves were, however, treated much more as household servants. They were property, but the were valuable property, and were rarely mistreated in the ways that American slaves were mistreated in the early 19th century.
It’s interesting here that Paul introduces himself in verse 1 as a prisoner. There are four other letters in which he refers to himself that way, but in all four, the reference is further down in the text, and he initially introduces himself as an apostle. It’s possible that, since this was a personal appeal to Philemon, Paul wanted to de-emphasis his apostolic authority and make this a personal appeal.
By addressing the letter to Apphia, Archippus, and “the church in your house”, Paul may have been calling in reinforcements, to encourage Philemon to go along with his [Paul’s] appeal.
“I thank my God always when I remember you in my prayers, because I hear of your love and of the faith that you have toward the Lord Jesus and for all the saints”. (v. 4-5)
I take two lessons from this. First, we can reasonably assume this is no simple literary flourish; Paul really did pray often for Philemon, along with an extensive list of others mentioned elsewhere. For every person for whom I pray, I can later think of ten others for whom I should have prayed! I need to be following much more closely to Paul’s example.
Second, Philemon’s life was exhibiting the fruits of the Holy Spirit, through his faith and love for the Colossian believers. Not just quietly, either. Paul was in prison in Rome, yet he was hearing about Philemon’s faith and love! This leads me to a second question for myself: Is my love for my church and for my Christian friends so active in my life as to be evident and visible to all? I must remember that my love is my greatest witness to the unbelieving world around me. My words will never attract them to Christ as powerfully as my love.
“and I pray that the sharing of your faith may become effective for the full knowledge of every good thing that is in us for the sake of Christ.” (v. 6)
Paul’s use of the word “epignōsei” in verse 6 indicates that he prayed for Philemon to experience every good thing in Christ, moving beyond simple knowledge. This leads me to ask myself whether the message I share with others is coming from the (intellectual, head-only) knowledge of God’s Word, or is it coming from the experience of God’s Word working in my life and transforming me into His image?
Verses 8-16 of this short letter present the meat of Paul’s message, and appeal to Philemon to receive Onesimus back into his household, without punishment, as he would receive any other brother in Christ, for that is precisely what Onesimus had become! Many commentaries will point out in detail the elements of Paul’s argument; I’ll only say here that Paul really pours it on! He points out that Onesimus’ time away from his duties had resulted in his learning about Christ and being saved, so it was a net gain to Philemon anyway.
Perhaps the most powerful lesson here is found in verses 18-19: “If he has wronged you at all, or owes you anything, charge that to my account. I, Paul, write this with my own hand: I will repay it.” We cannot miss, indeed must not miss, the parallel between Paul’s offer to pay Onesimus’ debt, and Christ Jesus’ offer to pay our debt of sin on the cross! Satan, our accuser, stands before God and points at each one of us. “Remember the time he cheated! Remember the time he put that item in his pocket and walked out of the store! Remember all that nasty stuff he looked at online! Remember those angry words and arguments! Remember all the good things he could have done, but took a nap instead! Don’t condemn me; condemn HIM!!” Then Jesus steps forward, stands beside each of us, and says “I will repay it!”.
What debt has Jesus repaid for you? The debt of sin He has repaid for me is too vast to even try to count!! Is there anything that Jesus could ask of me that is too much?