Read the scripture
Verses 1-9
It is important to remember that, as Paul wrote these verses, he was responding to specific questions which the Corinthian church had written to him. These verses should therefore not be taken as a complete theology of marriage.
Paul was unmarried, and found that state was advantageous to him. His recommendation here is to give careful consideration to what will work best for each person, marriage or celibacy. Remaining single has definate advantages, but not everyone can do it.
For those who choose marriage, selfishness has no place in the home. Husbands and wives are to each take their partner’s needs into account. Neither I nor my wife are living just for ourselves. We both live for each other, and we both live to serve God.
Application
Am I fully aware of my wife’s needs and putting her first in my thoughts and actions? Am I being selfish with my time and energy?
Verses 10-11
There are other scriptures covering divorce and re-marriage. Paul gives us here a brief summary which is consistent with the rest of the Bible. I took note of the ESV translation “should not separate”, and compared it with other translations. In this case, only the ESV seems to leave open the possibility of divorce; the NIV and Berean Standard translate the original as “must not separate”. The NLT says “must not leave”. The Greek phrase is “μὴ χωρισθῆναι”, which translates literally as “no to be separated”.
My personal conclusion from these verses is that, for a Christian marriage, divorce does not exist. A Christian husband and wife must remain married, submit to Christ, and work things out in their marriage.
Application
Do I stand firmly for the sanctity and permanency of marriage? Am I strong enough to confess that, in the past within my family, I haven’t always done so?
Verses 12-16
Paul moves on to address the marriages where one partner is an unbeliever. Christians should do everything they can in this circumstance to make the marriage work, and to be a faithful example and influence to lead their spouse and their children to faith in Christ. HOWEVER, the Christian spouse is not held responsible if the unbeliever chooses to leave the marriage.
Perhaps the most important verse here is “God has called you to peace”. God doesn’t want us to live in perpetual conflict.
Application
How will I counsel a couple living in a mixed (Christian / unbeliever) marriage? Will I remember to point them to Paul’s words of wisdom here?
Verses 17-24
“Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him.”
Are you content with your life? Am I? Christians should be open to God’s leading in their lives, but content with doing God’s will where He has placed them. God doesn’t call all of us to prominent, high-profile roles within our church, or within our place of employment. God doesn’t give us all the same resources (see Matthew 25:14-30), but He assigns roles and resources according to our ability to manage them.
This does NOT preclude taking advantage of opportunities to improve our situation when God makes such opportunities available to us. “But if you can gain your freedom, avail yourself of the opportunity.” Look carefully at opportunities for promotion, or step-up jobs, and ask whether the opportunity will bring you closer to God, or challenge you to remain faithful to Him.
Verse 23: “You were bought with a price; do not become bondservants of men.” What does this say to the Christian about going into debt? I realize this wasn’t the point Paul was making here, but doesn’t the principle apply? One of the meanings of “bondservant” in Bible times is one who voluntarily became a servant or slave of another. How is that different from purchasing that which I cannot afford with money which I can only assume I will earn later?
Digging even deeper, when we consider “You were bought with a price”, this phrase says quite a lot about our relationship to God. When we choose activities or lifestyles which are not approved by God, we’re acting as if we are our own owners. Paul says this is a false belief. It is GOD who has the right to choose whether I will drink that spirit, smoke that cigarette, or pursue that extramarital affair. I don’t have the right to choose; I’ve been bought and paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ.
Application
Am I content with the roles in life to which God has assigned me? Am I living each day as a bondservant of God, purchased by the sacrifice of Jesus? Am I taking every thought captive to remain obedient to Christ?
Verses 25-38
Most commentators believe that the “present distress” Paul mentions in verse 26 is the persecution of the church. In many places it was flat-out illegal to be a Christian, and punishments in those days tended to be quite harsh. As Paul gives his advice and recommendations, you can discern between the lines his concern for their well-being and protection. In very harsh and perilous times, it only makes sense as Paul explains to remain independent and avoid taking on the additional responsibility for a family.
This passage makes me realize that we modern-day American Christians really don’t know what persecution is! We refuse to bake a wedding cake for a gay wedding, the government puts us out of business, and we think ourselves persecuted! So far as I know, nobody in America has actually been murdered for his/her faith. Not so in other parts of the world. Be thankful you’re not trying to live as a Christian, and spread the gospel message, in places such as Afghanistan or North Korea.
Application
Am I praying daily for those in very repressive parts of the world, who are in peril for their lives simply by following Jesus? What am I doing to preserve and protect our religeous freedoms here?
Verses 39-40
Paul ends with a final reminder that marriage is for life. There is no such thing as a “trial marriage”; no such thing as an “escape clause”. Wives are free to re-marry only if and when the husband passes into Heaven. Also Paul wrote this specifically to wives, perhaps because the men were in greater peril of execution as Christians, I see no reason this would not apply equally to husbands whose wives have passed on. Paul was, after all, writing here to answer specific questions the Corinthians had asked.
Application
Have I completely and totally forsworn the possibility of divorce? Am I doing all I can each day to make our marriage one that my wife will want to remain in? Am I praying for my wife and for my marriage each day?